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If you’re not ready to tell your parents, don’t tell them unconsciously. Sometimes if you really want your parents to know and accept you – or if you’re angry that they don’t – you may do something that causes them to find out without realizing that that’s what you’re doing.

Sometime parents really do find out accidentally that their child is queer, but you can minimize the odds of that happening by using some caution. You know your family. If your mother is going to rifle through your underwear drawer, don’t put a queer manifesto in there.

 
 
 
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